I attended a conference last week by live stream. It was a great experience and I want to share two of my biggest a-ha’s with you.
Now I will say I have heard these before but they came into my awareness differently this time. I am at a different level than when I heard them before and listening with fresh ears.
The first big a-ha I had was about asking questions….how often when something goes wrong or not the way we expected it to go do we say something like….”Why this again!?” or “Why me?” or Why does this always happen?” or even worse, “Why don’t I learn, I’m such an idiot!”
These are all questions we are sending out to the universe and they are coming from the victim standpoint.
Instead, try asking more positive questions to open up the possibilities for you.
Such as…. “I wonder what life would be like if I showed up fully as me?” or “If I was truly willing to be me, what would I choose next?” or “What would it take for all of those past investments to actualize now?” or “What am I not willing to be aware of that if I were aware of would change everything?”.
You can phrase these questions to suit you, what is it that you want?
Questions put you in an altered state of consciousness that knocks down barriers of the deepest part of you. There is something incredibly powerful and sacred about wondering.
So ask powerful questions and see where they lead. Follow the light feelings and be open to possibilities. Most importantly, when the universal nudge comes to take action, take it! Even if it seems odd or scary. Opportunity can be disguised as something completely different so trust your inner knowing and be willing to experiment and see what pans out, always trusting your inner guidance to steer you in the ‘right for you’ next direction.
The second big a-ha for me was around judgment. Most of us suffer from being caught up in what other people are thinking of us and it holds us back from living to our full potential.
Will they judge me? Do they like me? I can attest to these thoughts and it used to paralyze me into not doing anything outside of my comfort zone. I led a boring, unfulfilling and safe life.
The facts are we all judge, and really the judgments we have are all our own stuff and nothing to do with the person we are judging…. Read my blog where I talk more about judgment.
If we truly want to live to our full potential being willing to receive judgment is a big part of it.
The more success you have by doing what you love means you are stepping into your greatness and that means you will trigger things in other people because they secretly want what you’ve got….and they are going to judge you.
Be willing to receive their judgment. Try it and become aware of what it brings up in you. It doesn’t mean they are right, or maybe you have this judgment about yourself? It’s just their opinion and really deep down, it’s their stuff they are struggling with.
Showing up fully as you is going to naturally attract people who resonate with you and repel those who don’t. Isn’t that what we want anyways?
It’s that simple folks, we can create big shifts when we embrace these ideas. Ask powerful questions, take action on what we are receiving and be willing to receive judgment. Questions create possibilities, judgments kill possibilities.
Play with these ideas and see where they lead you. I would love to hear how it goes for you so feel free to let me know!
Are you stuck in the victim consciousness? If you struggle with what I shared above then you have some inner work to do.
You can start by coming to one of my Radical Forgiveness Ceremonies and transform feeling like a victim to feeling more empowered instantaneously. I have three different ceremonies coming up in Ontario in the coming weeks. Check here for the details.
Can’t make a ceremony? Let’s have a clarity call and see where you are stuck and what you can do about it. It’s complimentary and whether we decide to work together or not you will come away with a few ideas you can do right away to make the positive changes in your life that you crave.
Choose your time here.
Besides impacting the lives of others to ‘be real and love life’ the most powerful thing about the work I get to do is the reflections of the teachings that come back to me. I always receive some type of wisdom, healing or blessing from the experience, whether it’s a private, group session or a speaking event.
Whatever the message is that I’ve conveyed I am somehow reminded of how it applies to me as well and it guides me towards the next stage of my growth.
Being aware of the subtle messages that are being sent to guide us forward is very empowering.
Last weekend at the Soul Full Day conference, I guided a group of 70 women through a visualization meditation to identify and let go of a fear story holding them back from what they truly wanted for their life, freedom to live their love story.
It was remarkable to witness them releasing the fear and claiming their love stories, seeing and feeling themselves living in the higher potential of their dreams.
This week I’ve been deeply reminded of the fear story that I’ve been carrying, ‘not being well enough to live a fulfilling life because my digestive health is failing’.
This is the same story my grandmother carried, and she died in fear with this story in her which was unconsciously passed on to me, and I accepted it.
For 8 years now I’ve been having various challenges with my digestive health. I’ve seen many different professionals and tried many different remedies and lifestyle changes. Some have worked and some haven’t. Over time things seemed to have mostly settled, then just a month ago the issues flared up again in a bigger way.
This brought up the old fear story for me as I prepare for a trip of a lifetime. I’m going to Egypt on a sacred pilgrimage to the visit the lands and ancient sites with 13 other women. This will be my first trip overseas and I’ve always been fascinated with Egyptian history, never thinking I would get the opportunity to visit until it showed up to me. I was very drawn to go, and decided I was going, even though it felt way outside my ability to be able to take such a trip.
Worries and a wide range of emotions have been coming up for me since these flare ups have been happening. My mind races and makes up stories based in old fears.
What if I am not well enough to fully experience this trip? What if I am stuck in my room and miss the tours, or what if I am not able to digest the food there? All that disappointment and money spent if I might not be able to full experience it.
These stories are very similar to what my grandmother used to tell herself. She was afraid to go far from home, let alone on a plane to another country. Everything centred around her digestive limitations and she was petrified of having an ‘accident’ while out in public. These fear stories debilitated her and she became a hermit and was very lonely in her later years.
I will never forget seeing her in the final days of her life living in fear. I visited her almost every day and seeing her like that was very sad because there wasn’t much I could do other than comfort and reassure her that she would be ok.
What it did do was motivate me to face my own fears and not go down the same path as she did. In this regard, she was a great teacher to me and not long after she transitioned I was divinely guided to take the Radical Forgiveness Master Coach 10 day training in Atlanta.
It was a huge step for me, and again way outside my comfort zone, but in the end it was one of the best things I could have done for myself because it set me on the trajectory of facing my fears, and the journey of living my love story.
I am eternally grateful to be on this path of self-forgiveness and self-acceptance just as I am, and in time I have learned to love myself. I’m still on this healing journey however this year I’ve had some major shifts in this area of my life and feel truly worthy and deserving of this love for myself because I have freedom from the fears.
This is where the synchronicity comes in again.
It just so happens that this Friday, the day I fly to Egypt, is the 9 year anniversary of my grandmother’s passing, and it’s a full moon! You just can’t make these things up. I didn’t realize the mysterious alignment of these dates until just a few weeks ago.
In numerology the number 9 represents endings and completions and I have a strong intuitive feeling that this trip is going to be transformational for me as a new beginning.
The other day when I was dancing my grandmother came to my mind, she was dancing with me, and I know she is leaving me these breadcrumb signs to follow to complete this stage of my journey. I made a promise to her that I was going to end the cycle of fear she carried and commit myself to healing into wholeness.
I have no doubt that this is all happening for me, rather than to me. And unlike my grandmother, I will face my fears and take this trip and I will trust in the divine unfoldment of it all.
I am reminded that everything is always working out for me, even if it doesn’t seem that way and she is cheering me on all along the way.
These are the same phrases I spoke to the women when I was on stage just a few days ago and they echo loudly in my mind as the beautiful blessings of having the freedom to live my love story.
If you would like to experience the guided visualization for yourself listen to the audio recording so you too can be free from your fear story and claim your love story.
In my next blog I will share about my travel adventures so stay tuned, and if you would like to be notified when I share it you can join my email Love Letter list at the bottom of this page.
Until next time… thank you for being here.
Will they judge me? Do they like me? I can attest to these thoughts and it used to paralyze me into not doing anything outside of my comfort zone. I led a boring, unfulfilling and safe life.
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