I’m riding the waves of life, we all are really….sometimes it’s flowing and effortless, other times it can feel like you’re going against the current or even drowning.
I’m pretty aware of when life is not flowing and that’s when I ask have to step back and ask myself,
What am I resisting here? What am I not seeing? What am I trying to get right? What am I judging?
One of the big lessons I’ve learned from so many I’ve mentored or coached with or have just come to know as trusted friends doing similar things I’m doing is ‘We can’t change what we judge.’ and I’ve proved it to myself many times over the years.
Here’s a common example I have faced that you may be able to relate with.
For the longest time I had several relationships with people who were close to me and I judged who they were being. I thought I knew better but really, who am I to think I know better? Maybe they are right where they need to be and I need to focus on my own life and not other people’s lives.
So I ask myself, Why do I care?
When I think they should change I am not accepting them for who they are. If who they are being is not in line with my morals and values then I don’t spend time with them.
I honour myself by doing this and I focus on me and my life, not having concern for what they are doing. I let it go and allow it to be what it is.
I must hand it over to the powers that be because it’s not my job to run others lives, it’s theirs.
Oh what a peaceful feeling it is to detach from my judgement. It allows me to have a much easier time accepting them for who they are. and myself too! Then guess what?
Change often happens on it’s own without me doing anything other than riding the wave and seeing where it takes me.
I remind myself to take care of me and then I am much better to serve others with detachment from their actions and outcomes.
I am not saying I never judge, this is human nature…however I am much more aware of my judgments and questions them. This is healthy self-awareness.
Of course I want good outcomes for others but I am not privy to the purposes of their journey. I don’t pretend I know what is best for anyone but myself, because I don’t!
I have had a habit of doing this in the past. Many sensitive, empathic people experience these challenges when it comes to relationships.
I now know if I am meant to contribute to bringing more ease into their lives it will organically unfold. I allow and see where it goes. I follow as I am led. This is easier now that I trust myself. When you don’t trust yourself you do a lot of second-guessing, worrying and fretting. (This was me)
Of course sometimes nothing changes and I know if it keeps bothering me it’s my issue to address with myself. Maybe I have to get some clarity and make a different choice.
It will unfold as it’s meant to and I will do something about it when it’s time. Those are all relative things, the awareness is the key to the ease.
Knowing these truths makes riding the waves of life much easier.
We ARE meant to ride them, embracing the ups and downs, the fun, exciting, sad and scary……because we signed up for all of it!
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Besides impacting the lives of others to ‘be real and love life’ the most powerful thing about the work I get to do is the reflections of the teachings that come back to me. I always receive some type of wisdom, healing or blessing from the experience, whether it’s a private, group session or a speaking event.
Whatever the message is that I’ve conveyed I am somehow reminded of how it applies to me as well and it guides me towards the next stage of my growth.
Being aware of the subtle messages that are being sent to guide us forward is very empowering.
Last weekend at the Soul Full Day conference, I guided a group of 70 women through a visualization meditation to identify and let go of a fear story holding them back from what they truly wanted for their life, freedom to live their love story.
It was remarkable to witness them releasing the fear and claiming their love stories, seeing and feeling themselves living in the higher potential of their dreams.
This week I’ve been deeply reminded of the fear story that I’ve been carrying, ‘not being well enough to live a fulfilling life because my digestive health is failing’.
This is the same story my grandmother carried, and she died in fear with this story in her which was unconsciously passed on to me, and I accepted it.
For 8 years now I’ve been having various challenges with my digestive health. I’ve seen many different professionals and tried many different remedies and lifestyle changes. Some have worked and some haven’t. Over time things seemed to have mostly settled, then just a month ago the issues flared up again in a bigger way.
This brought up the old fear story for me as I prepare for a trip of a lifetime. I’m going to Egypt on a sacred pilgrimage to the visit the lands and ancient sites with 13 other women. This will be my first trip overseas and I’ve always been fascinated with Egyptian history, never thinking I would get the opportunity to visit until it showed up to me. I was very drawn to go, and decided I was going, even though it felt way outside my ability to be able to take such a trip.
Worries and a wide range of emotions have been coming up for me since these flare ups have been happening. My mind races and makes up stories based in old fears.
What if I am not well enough to fully experience this trip? What if I am stuck in my room and miss the tours, or what if I am not able to digest the food there? All that disappointment and money spent if I might not be able to full experience it.
These stories are very similar to what my grandmother used to tell herself. She was afraid to go far from home, let alone on a plane to another country. Everything centred around her digestive limitations and she was petrified of having an ‘accident’ while out in public. These fear stories debilitated her and she became a hermit and was very lonely in her later years.
I will never forget seeing her in the final days of her life living in fear. I visited her almost every day and seeing her like that was very sad because there wasn’t much I could do other than comfort and reassure her that she would be ok.
What it did do was motivate me to face my own fears and not go down the same path as she did. In this regard, she was a great teacher to me and not long after she transitioned I was divinely guided to take the Radical Forgiveness Master Coach 10 day training in Atlanta.
It was a huge step for me, and again way outside my comfort zone, but in the end it was one of the best things I could have done for myself because it set me on the trajectory of facing my fears, and the journey of living my love story.
I am eternally grateful to be on this path of self-forgiveness and self-acceptance just as I am, and in time I have learned to love myself. I’m still on this healing journey however this year I’ve had some major shifts in this area of my life and feel truly worthy and deserving of this love for myself because I have freedom from the fears.
This is where the synchronicity comes in again.
It just so happens that this Friday, the day I fly to Egypt, is the 9 year anniversary of my grandmother’s passing, and it’s a full moon! You just can’t make these things up. I didn’t realize the mysterious alignment of these dates until just a few weeks ago.
In numerology the number 9 represents endings and completions and I have a strong intuitive feeling that this trip is going to be transformational for me as a new beginning.
The other day when I was dancing my grandmother came to my mind, she was dancing with me, and I know she is leaving me these breadcrumb signs to follow to complete this stage of my journey. I made a promise to her that I was going to end the cycle of fear she carried and commit myself to healing into wholeness.
I have no doubt that this is all happening for me, rather than to me. And unlike my grandmother, I will face my fears and take this trip and I will trust in the divine unfoldment of it all.
I am reminded that everything is always working out for me, even if it doesn’t seem that way and she is cheering me on all along the way.
These are the same phrases I spoke to the women when I was on stage just a few days ago and they echo loudly in my mind as the beautiful blessings of having the freedom to live my love story.
If you would like to experience the guided visualization for yourself listen to the audio recording so you too can be free from your fear story and claim your love story.
In my next blog I will share about my travel adventures so stay tuned, and if you would like to be notified when I share it you can join my email Love Letter list at the bottom of this page.
Until next time… thank you for being here.
I’m riding the waves of life, we all are really….sometimes it’s flowing and effortless, other times it can feel like you’re going against the current or even drowning.
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