Honouring the Dead

by | Nov 1, 2023 | 0 comments

Today I honour the dead as do many others around the world. There are many customary traditions that various cultures practice to do this which were more prevalent and accepted many years ago. 

In modern day society this time of year, like many other holidays (holy days), has been commercialized, and a lot of the original meaning has been lost.

It occurred to me over the summer how much our current problems, personally and globally, have been passed down to us from our generations and I wondered, Are we learning from it?

Learning from the past

I asked myself, How can we change this? The answer I received is to break the patterns and create new ones, and we start with ourselves.

Easier said than done, many of our patterns, the ways of thinking and being which are based on our mainly false belief systems , all come from the past.  They come from what has been taught and modelled to us and passed down generation after generation.

So it only makes sense to look back at past errors, failures and tragedies to learn from them, and take steps to not keep repeating them. 

I don’t think erasing them and trying to forget about them will help us. How can we learn from them if they are erased?

There has also been a lot of misconstrued histories that are half truths, so it can be complicated, which is why we start with our own life, because that is what we have the power to change.

There is a saying that in order to change something we need to do it differently or we will just get the same results. 

Maybe our ancestors can help us? So I looked at this in my own life.

Change what we have control of

In reflection I was led to look back into my past, and see how far I have come from when I started this awakening journey about 10 years ago.

I can see how I have put my own needs in the forefront and I’ve had to work through the resistance of this change because I had many false beleifs that kept me stuck and spinning my wheels.

I’ve also made big changes in being seen and heard, in my personal and business life. Coming from being a previously shy and conforming young woman I can now see that I am living in more alignment with my values and beliefs, because I question my actions and have gotten clear on what is most important to me.  

Like us all, I’m a work in progress.

Prior to 2015 I had no contact with Spirit that I was aware of, yet I have always been fascinated with it and with communicating with the dead. 

(This is my altar dedicated to my ancestors.)

Ancestor Altar

Respect for the Dead and Dying

Additionally I’ve always had a deep belief in respecting and honouring the dead and dying and have been trusted with supporting two grandmothers in their final days of transitioning. 

With practice and patience I have gradually learned to communicate with Spirit and my shamanic studies strengthened these abilities. Now in the process of learning Ancestral Lineage Healing.

It’s quite incredible how synchronistic life has become since I’ve opened myself up to this gift and have learned to trust myself. 

I simply have conversations with loved ones who have passed, and they support me and encourage me to keep going in my pursuits.

A Whole Other World

So many of us live a surface level life and that might be just fine for some. However many of us have a strong sense there’s a whole other world we can tap into that opens us up to healing, blessings, abundance and deeper life meaning because we are in direct communication with our own soul and souls we have connections to on the other side.

Society has a general belief that this practice is witchy, creepy, dangerous or even sacrilegious. So many of us do this type of thing on the down low, which is just fine, because this isn’t something to brag about. It’s a sacred practice.

Even still, I feel that it’s worth writing about, if not to plant a seed that there is so much more to life than meets the eye, and when we die it’s not over.

We are still connected to each other and are in non-physical form, because our souls are eternal.

Witchy

Some will say using our intuitive powers and imagination to communicate with those on the other side is witchy, and if that is true then every one of us is because we all have this ability if we choose to activate and hone it. 

Be Aware

It is very true that it can be dangerous and so we must be smart to learn how to have healthy energetic boundaries when communicating with Spirit and to first establish a communication with our own soul. This is why I created the Soul Adventure Journey to the Real Me game.

If we are not in good energetic health it’s quite easy to attract an unwell Spirit or ancestor and it can cause chaos in our lives.

It’s a Natural Thing

Believing it is sacrilegious to communicate with the dead is a strong belief system that was conditioned into some of us over time. 

Is it really? I don’t think so. When we pray we are communicating with Spirit whether we believe so or not. I also believe nature and Spirit are deeply connected; nature is like Spirit in physical form which is why we feel so good being in nature and when we put our bare feet on the ground we actually heal!

An Invitation to Reflect

In closing, I invite you to take some time to reflect on your past ancestors, the ones you know and the ones you don’t. 

Maybe there’s some not so nice memories that represent a pattern in your family or your own life?  

How would you like to change it going forward? 

What can you do to not keep repeating the pattern passed down to you? 

Is this pattern bigger than you feel you can handle to change and might you need support?

This is the inner work so many of us are being called to do. If I can support you or you would like to simply discuss it I’d be happy to explore with you and at least give you some clarity. Book a Clarity Call with me here.

This is very important work to do because as we break the cycles of the non-beneficial patterns in our lives we are creating a better world and future for the coming generations and this makes our ancestors very happy. (So I’ve been told. 😉 )

Love Lorree

xo

Besides impacting the lives of others to ‘be real and love life’ the most powerful thing about the work I get to do is the reflections of the teachings that come back to me. I always receive some type of wisdom, healing or blessing from the experience, whether it’s a private, group session or a speaking event.

Whatever the message is that I’ve conveyed I am somehow reminded of how it applies to me as well and it guides me towards the next stage of my growth.

Being aware of the subtle messages that are being sent to guide us forward is very empowering.

Last weekend at the Soul Full Day conference, I guided a group of 70 women through a visualization meditation to identify and let go of a fear story holding them back from what they truly wanted for their life, freedom to live their love story.

It was remarkable to witness them releasing the fear and claiming their love stories, seeing and feeling themselves living in the higher potential of their dreams.

This week I’ve been deeply reminded of the fear story that I’ve been carrying, ‘not being well enough to live a fulfilling life because my digestive health is failing’.

This is the same story my grandmother carried, and she died in fear with this story in her which was unconsciously passed on to me, and I accepted it.

For 8 years now I’ve been having various challenges with my digestive health. I’ve seen many different professionals and tried many different remedies and lifestyle changes. Some have worked and some haven’t. Over time things seemed to have mostly settled, then just a month ago the issues flared up again in a bigger way.

This brought up the old fear story for me as I prepare for a trip of a lifetime. I’m going to Egypt on a sacred pilgrimage to the visit the lands and ancient sites with 13 other women. This will be my first trip overseas and I’ve always been fascinated with Egyptian history, never thinking I would get the opportunity to visit until it showed up to me. I was very drawn to go, and decided I was going, even though it felt way outside my ability to be able to take such a trip.

Worries and a wide range of emotions have been coming up for me since these flare ups have been happening. My mind races and makes up stories based in old fears.

What if I am not well enough to fully experience this trip? What if I am stuck in my room and miss the tours, or what if I am not able to digest the food there? All that disappointment and money spent if I might not be able to full experience it.

These stories are very similar to what my grandmother used to tell herself. She was afraid to go far from home, let alone on a plane to another country. Everything centred around her digestive limitations and she was petrified of having an ‘accident’ while out in public. These fear stories debilitated her and she became a hermit and was very lonely in her later years.

I will never forget seeing her in the final days of her life living in fear. I visited her almost every day and seeing her like that was very sad because there wasn’t much I could do other than comfort and reassure her that she would be ok.

What it did do was motivate me to face my own fears and not go down the same path as she did. In this regard, she was a great teacher to me and not long after she transitioned I was divinely guided to take the Radical Forgiveness Master Coach 10 day training in Atlanta.

It was a huge step for me, and again way outside my comfort zone, but in the end it was one of the best things I could have done for myself because it set me on the trajectory of facing my fears, and the journey of living my love story.

I am eternally grateful to be on this path of self-forgiveness and self-acceptance just as I am, and in time I have learned to love myself. I’m still on this healing journey however this year I’ve had some major shifts in this area of my life and feel truly worthy and deserving of this love for myself because I have freedom from the fears.

Numerology 9

This is where the synchronicity comes in again.

It just so happens that this Friday, the day I fly to Egypt, is the 9 year anniversary of my grandmother’s passing, and it’s a full moon!  You just can’t make these things up. I didn’t realize the mysterious alignment of these dates until just a few weeks ago.

In numerology the number 9 represents endings and completions and I have a strong intuitive feeling that this trip is going to be transformational for me as a new beginning.

The other day when I was dancing my grandmother came to my mind, she was dancing with me, and I know she is leaving me these breadcrumb signs to follow to complete this stage of my journey. I made a promise to her that I was going to end the cycle of fear she carried and commit myself to healing into wholeness.

I have no doubt that this is all happening for me, rather than to me.  And unlike my grandmother, I will face my fears and take this trip and I will trust in the divine unfoldment of it all.

I am reminded that everything is always working out for me, even if it doesn’t seem that way and she is cheering me on all along the way.

These are the same phrases I spoke to the women when I was on stage just a few days ago and they echo loudly in my mind as the beautiful blessings of having the freedom to live my love story.

If you would like to experience the guided visualization for yourself listen to the audio recording so you too can be free from your fear story and claim your love story.

In my next blog I will share about my travel adventures so stay tuned, and if you would like to be notified when I share it you can join my email Love Letter list at the bottom of this page.

Until next time… thank you for being here.

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