Another Perspective Worth Considering

by Lorree | Dec 17, 2023 | 0 comments

I saw a video where the perspective was that ‘everything is not forgiveable’. Despite knowing that some truly believe this, I disagree and here’s why:

I believe traditional forgiveness has been very misconstrued. Forgiveness does not mean we are letting someone off the hook for what they did, or saying it’s ok, no wonder people struggle with it.

Forgiveness is a choice we need to be ready to make to not allow the person or thing to have power over us any longer. We take our power back.

I practice Radical Forgiveness which has a higher power component to it and that reframe made all the difference for me.

When we hold resentment we are unforgiving. We must be ready to stop giving the other person our power and if we are not there, it’s ok.

My opinion is everything IS forgivable, it’s that the individual may not be ready or able to. Don’t hate on me, I know there’s horrible things that are going on and I’m not saying they are ok. That’s not the point.

Those of us who are privileged enough to not be going through the intense trauma are the ones who can do this work for the collective.

Because we are all interconnected when we do this healing work our vibration positively affects others, just one person raising their vibration and not living in fear raises the consciousness of over 200,000 people so forgiveness matters a lot!

If someone has done a horrible thing to you of course you will not initially forgive but once you have

have the experiences witnessed and validated by a compassionate person,

have worked through and owned and felt your feelings,

you have seen your patterns and belief systems and found what the experience has taught you,

you can then take powerful steps to not allow that to happen again because you have forgiven and moved on.

You then stop giving energy to the painful memories and you take the wisdom gained forward.

This is Radical Forgiveness, it means FREEDOM and PEACE for you!

They don’t have to be in your life anymore. Most often they will not be if they don’t change too because you have regained enough personal power to stand strong in your healthy boundaries.

You have been able to take steps to only allowing people in your life who treat you the way you want and deserve to be treated, with love, trust and respect.

This is reclaiming your personal power.

Jesus with halo with one hand pointing up.

I’ve forgiven many people who I don’t have a relationship with because it’s toxic to me.

Some are still in my life and our relationship is not the same, it’s so much better!

I don’t hold any ill will towards any of them. I am at peace with what happened.

It took a lot of inner work and some time for me to work through my strongly held belief systems that said I’m not worthy and I am not safe to be me.

I now know I am a fractal of the Divine, a soul in a body having a human experience.

Radical Forgiveness taught me that my beliefs were false and I was operating in fear. Beliefs are very personal and we usually need support to work through the false ones we are holding which operate our lives from our subconscious programmed mind.

I also believe that Jesus or Yeshua’s main message was that what we believe and have faith in will be true.

He came to teach us these powerful lessons of faith, forgiveness and about what ‘sins’ actually are and his story was also misconstrued.

He didn’t come here to save us, he came here to show us how we can save ourselves!

This is me and my beliefs and experiences. If you don’t agree I respect and honour your free will to do so. No need to correct me.

We are all unique and on our purposeful journey in life and I would never tell someone they have to believe what I believe or they should forgive.

We all have free will and as long as we do our best to do no harm to others and forgive ourselves when we make a mis-take it doesn’t matter what we believe. We can all get along and respect each others divine free will.

Love and kindness goes a long way.

I wrote this to give another perspective even though it may be unpopular.

Because forgiveness of all the crap that happened to you in the past is complete freedom from the painful experiences, they have no power over you anymore.

When we are able to forgive and take our power back and most importantly forgive ourselves for putting up with it, allowing it, staying too long etc.

We Are Free!!

If you want to look into how I can support you with taking your power back go here where you can find free resources, upcoming events and my contact details and offerings.

Besides impacting the lives of others to ‘be real and love life’ the most powerful thing about the work I get to do is the reflections of the teachings that come back to me. I always receive some type of wisdom, healing or blessing from the experience, whether it’s a private, group session or a speaking event.

Whatever the message is that I’ve conveyed I am somehow reminded of how it applies to me as well and it guides me towards the next stage of my growth.

Being aware of the subtle messages that are being sent to guide us forward is very empowering.

Last weekend at the Soul Full Day conference, I guided a group of 70 women through a visualization meditation to identify and let go of a fear story holding them back from what they truly wanted for their life, freedom to live their love story.

It was remarkable to witness them releasing the fear and claiming their love stories, seeing and feeling themselves living in the higher potential of their dreams.

This week I’ve been deeply reminded of the fear story that I’ve been carrying, ‘not being well enough to live a fulfilling life because my digestive health is failing’.

This is the same story my grandmother carried, and she died in fear with this story in her which was unconsciously passed on to me, and I accepted it.

For 8 years now I’ve been having various challenges with my digestive health. I’ve seen many different professionals and tried many different remedies and lifestyle changes. Some have worked and some haven’t. Over time things seemed to have mostly settled, then just a month ago the issues flared up again in a bigger way.

This brought up the old fear story for me as I prepare for a trip of a lifetime. I’m going to Egypt on a sacred pilgrimage to the visit the lands and ancient sites with 13 other women. This will be my first trip overseas and I’ve always been fascinated with Egyptian history, never thinking I would get the opportunity to visit until it showed up to me. I was very drawn to go, and decided I was going, even though it felt way outside my ability to be able to take such a trip.

Worries and a wide range of emotions have been coming up for me since these flare ups have been happening. My mind races and makes up stories based in old fears.

What if I am not well enough to fully experience this trip? What if I am stuck in my room and miss the tours, or what if I am not able to digest the food there? All that disappointment and money spent if I might not be able to full experience it.

These stories are very similar to what my grandmother used to tell herself. She was afraid to go far from home, let alone on a plane to another country. Everything centred around her digestive limitations and she was petrified of having an ‘accident’ while out in public. These fear stories debilitated her and she became a hermit and was very lonely in her later years.

I will never forget seeing her in the final days of her life living in fear. I visited her almost every day and seeing her like that was very sad because there wasn’t much I could do other than comfort and reassure her that she would be ok.

What it did do was motivate me to face my own fears and not go down the same path as she did. In this regard, she was a great teacher to me and not long after she transitioned I was divinely guided to take the Radical Forgiveness Master Coach 10 day training in Atlanta.

It was a huge step for me, and again way outside my comfort zone, but in the end it was one of the best things I could have done for myself because it set me on the trajectory of facing my fears, and the journey of living my love story.

I am eternally grateful to be on this path of self-forgiveness and self-acceptance just as I am, and in time I have learned to love myself. I’m still on this healing journey however this year I’ve had some major shifts in this area of my life and feel truly worthy and deserving of this love for myself because I have freedom from the fears.

This is where the synchronicity comes in again.

It just so happens that this Friday, the day I fly to Egypt, is the 9 year anniversary of my grandmother’s passing, and it’s a full moon! You just can’t make these things up. I didn’t realize the mysterious alignment of these dates until just a few weeks ago.

In numerology the number 9 represents endings and completions and I have a strong intuitive feeling that this trip is going to be transformational for me as a new beginning.

The other day when I was dancing my grandmother came to my mind, she was dancing with me, and I know she is leaving me these breadcrumb signs to follow to complete this stage of my journey. I made a promise to her that I was going to end the cycle of fear she carried and commit myself to healing into wholeness.

I have no doubt that this is all happening for me, rather than to me. And unlike my grandmother, I will face my fears and take this trip and I will trust in the divine unfoldment of it all.

I am reminded that everything is always working out for me, even if it doesn’t seem that way and she is cheering me on all along the way.

These are the same phrases I spoke to the women when I was on stage just a few days ago and they echo loudly in my mind as the beautiful blessings of having the freedom to live my love story.

If you would like to experience the guided visualization for yourself listen to the audio recording so you too can be free from your fear story and claim your love story.

In my next blog I will share about my travel adventures so stay tuned, and if you would like to be notified when I share it you can join my email Love Letter list at the bottom of this page.

Until next time… thank you for being here.

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