The Re-frame: It’s all in how you choose to look at it!

by Lorree | Oct 21, 2016 | 0 comments

Stage 4 in Radical Forgiveness is about re-framing the story. This is where the magic happens.

It’s time to be willing to change the way we look at the story in order to transform it. Turning it from a tragic story into one we wanted to experience, from a soul perspective. We needed to go through it for our soul to grow into who we are now. From our soul’s point of view it was perfect.

Sometimes we will be able to see this and learn our lesson right away but most times we will need to give up the need to know why it happened, surrender to the fact that there is a gift somewhere in the situation that we may or may not ever know. Either is ok.

This is where we start to transform energy and see and feel things differently. In surrendering we receive our gift and find the real lesson which is love. Divine perfection in what happened is clear and we don’t need to be the victim anymore.

Our painful feelings of resentment, anger and bitterness turn into feelings of gratitude, appreciation and acceptance. We go from fear to love. It’s a beautiful thing.

Once again we do not have to believe any of this, only be willing to entertain that it might be possible. The energy is still being released and the feelings and stories are transformed because our higher self (soul) knows we are at the place of surrender and release.

I can say from a personal perspective and hearing from so many others that this really works! Once you do the re-frame you will feel lighter, happier, more peaceful, hopeful and grateful for those who hurt and betrayed you. You don’t have to be their friend or even like them for this to happen.

Remember, our life is a journey, all parts of it, good and bad are absolutely necessary for our soul’s growth. If a situation keeps coming to the surface it’s a strong indicator that it needs to be addressed. Often times we may think, “That person does not deserve to be forgiven”. That’s not the point.

When we withhold love from someone we are withholding love from our self. Our life force energy is being used to hang on to anger, resentment and bitterness and we have little left for us. It’s tiring and toxic and if we don’t release our pain it will stay in our bodies and eventually it’s coming out! Most likely in illness or disease.

This is what happened to me, in my early 40’s when I was in the thick of it all, I had so many body aches and pains and was continually going to the doctor and physiotherapist.

My body was giving me a ton of warning signs to wake up and pay attention to what needed to be healed. I didn’t listen or even know at that time what I needed to do. I was spiritually asleep and too scared to go deep, I had a lot of stories I was desperately hanging on to!

I was making small changes but I really started to wake up after a major betrayal of a loved one and a colonoscopy where they removed a large pre-cancerous polyp. Cancer was growing inside of me! I felt like I had dodged a bullet and had a new lease on life. I knew had to make big changes and was led to forgiving others and then myself. I truly believe forgiveness was the catalyst to getting my life back.

If you want to know more about forgiveness and see if you are ready, download my free guide and answer the questions. After that if you want to go further there’s a link to my calendar in the guide, book a time and we can talk it through.

Besides impacting the lives of others to ‘be real and love life’ the most powerful thing about the work I get to do is the reflections of the teachings that come back to me. I always receive some type of wisdom, healing or blessing from the experience, whether it’s a private, group session or a speaking event.

Whatever the message is that I’ve conveyed I am somehow reminded of how it applies to me as well and it guides me towards the next stage of my growth.

Being aware of the subtle messages that are being sent to guide us forward is very empowering.

Last weekend at the Soul Full Day conference, I guided a group of 70 women through a visualization meditation to identify and let go of a fear story holding them back from what they truly wanted for their life, freedom to live their love story.

It was remarkable to witness them releasing the fear and claiming their love stories, seeing and feeling themselves living in the higher potential of their dreams.

This week I’ve been deeply reminded of the fear story that I’ve been carrying, ‘not being well enough to live a fulfilling life because my digestive health is failing’.

This is the same story my grandmother carried, and she died in fear with this story in her which was unconsciously passed on to me, and I accepted it.

For 8 years now I’ve been having various challenges with my digestive health. I’ve seen many different professionals and tried many different remedies and lifestyle changes. Some have worked and some haven’t. Over time things seemed to have mostly settled, then just a month ago the issues flared up again in a bigger way.

This brought up the old fear story for me as I prepare for a trip of a lifetime. I’m going to Egypt on a sacred pilgrimage to the visit the lands and ancient sites with 13 other women. This will be my first trip overseas and I’ve always been fascinated with Egyptian history, never thinking I would get the opportunity to visit until it showed up to me. I was very drawn to go, and decided I was going, even though it felt way outside my ability to be able to take such a trip.

Worries and a wide range of emotions have been coming up for me since these flare ups have been happening. My mind races and makes up stories based in old fears.

What if I am not well enough to fully experience this trip? What if I am stuck in my room and miss the tours, or what if I am not able to digest the food there? All that disappointment and money spent if I might not be able to full experience it.

These stories are very similar to what my grandmother used to tell herself. She was afraid to go far from home, let alone on a plane to another country. Everything centred around her digestive limitations and she was petrified of having an ‘accident’ while out in public. These fear stories debilitated her and she became a hermit and was very lonely in her later years.

I will never forget seeing her in the final days of her life living in fear. I visited her almost every day and seeing her like that was very sad because there wasn’t much I could do other than comfort and reassure her that she would be ok.

What it did do was motivate me to face my own fears and not go down the same path as she did. In this regard, she was a great teacher to me and not long after she transitioned I was divinely guided to take the Radical Forgiveness Master Coach 10 day training in Atlanta.

It was a huge step for me, and again way outside my comfort zone, but in the end it was one of the best things I could have done for myself because it set me on the trajectory of facing my fears, and the journey of living my love story.

I am eternally grateful to be on this path of self-forgiveness and self-acceptance just as I am, and in time I have learned to love myself. I’m still on this healing journey however this year I’ve had some major shifts in this area of my life and feel truly worthy and deserving of this love for myself because I have freedom from the fears.

This is where the synchronicity comes in again.

It just so happens that this Friday, the day I fly to Egypt, is the 9 year anniversary of my grandmother’s passing, and it’s a full moon! You just can’t make these things up. I didn’t realize the mysterious alignment of these dates until just a few weeks ago.

In numerology the number 9 represents endings and completions and I have a strong intuitive feeling that this trip is going to be transformational for me as a new beginning.

The other day when I was dancing my grandmother came to my mind, she was dancing with me, and I know she is leaving me these breadcrumb signs to follow to complete this stage of my journey. I made a promise to her that I was going to end the cycle of fear she carried and commit myself to healing into wholeness.

I have no doubt that this is all happening for me, rather than to me. And unlike my grandmother, I will face my fears and take this trip and I will trust in the divine unfoldment of it all.

I am reminded that everything is always working out for me, even if it doesn’t seem that way and she is cheering me on all along the way.

These are the same phrases I spoke to the women when I was on stage just a few days ago and they echo loudly in my mind as the beautiful blessings of having the freedom to live my love story.

If you would like to experience the guided visualization for yourself listen to the audio recording so you too can be free from your fear story and claim your love story.

In my next blog I will share about my travel adventures so stay tuned, and if you would like to be notified when I share it you can join my email Love Letter list at the bottom of this page.

Until next time… thank you for being here.

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