How Can You Connect with Who You Really Are?

by Lorree | Jul 25, 2016 | 0 comments

Meditation. What comes up for you when you hear that word?

Some people swear by it and would rather meditate than have their morning coffee. ‘What!? Kinda out there!’, I thought when I heard people say that.

Why does it seem so difficult to mediate for some of us?

Have you tried mediating before? Did you find it hard to focus on clearing your mind? I know I did. My monkey mind was thinking all those random thoughts and kept interrupting me!

I tried the technique of letting your thoughts drift by like a cloud does in the sky, notice them and let them go. They wouldn’t drift away though, they kept filling up my head and my eyes would water. I would start yawning and then I would hear noise that would distract me even further! It was very frustrating and I felt like I could not focus on anything.

Needless to say, I was hesitant to try again because I would keep getting the same experiences and I felt like there was something wrong with me.

But I keep hearing how imperative daily meditation is to improving our life and connecting with our higher self, which is our internal compass, so I decided to look further into what are the benefits, how do you do it and is there a wrong way to do it?

I took the free Meditation course from OMHarmonics and this is what I learned.

There are many benefits to meditating and here are just some of them.

Improved productivity and focus throughout your day
Less reactive and more responsive to everyday life stresses
Increased creativity and problem solving
Decreased worry, anxiety, doubts and fears
Boosts the immune system
Better sleep
Controls and reduces pain
Reduces blood pressure
Slows down aging
Increases libido

Also meditation increases our ability to practice mindfulness. What’s that?

Mindfulness is observing your own thoughts and feelings. If a thought, fear or worry comes in your mind just observe it and stay in the moment. It’s perfectly OK to keep thinking while mediating. Hallelujah! I wasn’t doing it wrong!

Eyes watering and yawning is OK too. It’s your body’s way of relaxing and moving energy.

The goal of mediation is to relax our mind. We are connected all the time with too much information to take in so giving our minds a regular break is very important and there are thousands of research studies proving this theory. Our brainwaves change as we relax. Brainwaves are your brain’s level of beating.

Here are the 4 types of brainwaves and some of what our brain can do during them.

Beta 14-21 Hz (Hz = cycles per second) – awakened state, working, talking with someone, where we spend most of our waking hours
Alpha 7-14 Hz– a more relaxed state, creative, healing level. This is where meditation takes you.
Theta 4-7 Hz – daydreaming, dream state, insight, inspiration. This is the deeper state of meditation that is not so easy for a beginner to get to but this is where you want to aim for to get those flashes of inspiration and insight, to come up with an awesome idea or finding the answer to the problem you have been struggling with.
Delta <3.5 Hz – this is when you are fast asleep

There is a faster more effective way to get to the Alpha and Theta states than just using our own mental control. When we listen to a certain frequency of sound called binaural beats we can reach the Alpha and Theta state and get the benefits of mediation in as little as 15 – 30 mins per day.

Most of us don’t have much mental control and it take a lot if time and discipline to get there on their own unless they have a lot of will power and persistence. The average person will give up like I almost did so I decided to invest in these binaural beats to test it out.

I will be meditating every day and paying close attention to any changes I have and I will share them in the next month or two.

From what I have learned, and already experienced in my first week of consistent meditation, I feel more connected with my higher self, the true me. I also know when you can do that you will feel overall more peace and happiness in your life as well as being able to live your true purpose. This is what I want for my life so for 15-30 mins a day I can definitely spare that. It’s all part of self-love.

I’d love to know if you mediate or if you plan to start. If you do what’s your experience been?

Besides impacting the lives of others to ‘be real and love life’ the most powerful thing about the work I get to do is the reflections of the teachings that come back to me. I always receive some type of wisdom, healing or blessing from the experience, whether it’s a private, group session or a speaking event.

Whatever the message is that I’ve conveyed I am somehow reminded of how it applies to me as well and it guides me towards the next stage of my growth.

Being aware of the subtle messages that are being sent to guide us forward is very empowering.

Last weekend at the Soul Full Day conference, I guided a group of 70 women through a visualization meditation to identify and let go of a fear story holding them back from what they truly wanted for their life, freedom to live their love story.

It was remarkable to witness them releasing the fear and claiming their love stories, seeing and feeling themselves living in the higher potential of their dreams.

This week I’ve been deeply reminded of the fear story that I’ve been carrying, ‘not being well enough to live a fulfilling life because my digestive health is failing’.

This is the same story my grandmother carried, and she died in fear with this story in her which was unconsciously passed on to me, and I accepted it.

For 8 years now I’ve been having various challenges with my digestive health. I’ve seen many different professionals and tried many different remedies and lifestyle changes. Some have worked and some haven’t. Over time things seemed to have mostly settled, then just a month ago the issues flared up again in a bigger way.

This brought up the old fear story for me as I prepare for a trip of a lifetime. I’m going to Egypt on a sacred pilgrimage to the visit the lands and ancient sites with 13 other women. This will be my first trip overseas and I’ve always been fascinated with Egyptian history, never thinking I would get the opportunity to visit until it showed up to me. I was very drawn to go, and decided I was going, even though it felt way outside my ability to be able to take such a trip.

Worries and a wide range of emotions have been coming up for me since these flare ups have been happening. My mind races and makes up stories based in old fears.

What if I am not well enough to fully experience this trip? What if I am stuck in my room and miss the tours, or what if I am not able to digest the food there? All that disappointment and money spent if I might not be able to full experience it.

These stories are very similar to what my grandmother used to tell herself. She was afraid to go far from home, let alone on a plane to another country. Everything centred around her digestive limitations and she was petrified of having an ‘accident’ while out in public. These fear stories debilitated her and she became a hermit and was very lonely in her later years.

I will never forget seeing her in the final days of her life living in fear. I visited her almost every day and seeing her like that was very sad because there wasn’t much I could do other than comfort and reassure her that she would be ok.

What it did do was motivate me to face my own fears and not go down the same path as she did. In this regard, she was a great teacher to me and not long after she transitioned I was divinely guided to take the Radical Forgiveness Master Coach 10 day training in Atlanta.

It was a huge step for me, and again way outside my comfort zone, but in the end it was one of the best things I could have done for myself because it set me on the trajectory of facing my fears, and the journey of living my love story.

I am eternally grateful to be on this path of self-forgiveness and self-acceptance just as I am, and in time I have learned to love myself. I’m still on this healing journey however this year I’ve had some major shifts in this area of my life and feel truly worthy and deserving of this love for myself because I have freedom from the fears.

This is where the synchronicity comes in again.

It just so happens that this Friday, the day I fly to Egypt, is the 9 year anniversary of my grandmother’s passing, and it’s a full moon! You just can’t make these things up. I didn’t realize the mysterious alignment of these dates until just a few weeks ago.

In numerology the number 9 represents endings and completions and I have a strong intuitive feeling that this trip is going to be transformational for me as a new beginning.

The other day when I was dancing my grandmother came to my mind, she was dancing with me, and I know she is leaving me these breadcrumb signs to follow to complete this stage of my journey. I made a promise to her that I was going to end the cycle of fear she carried and commit myself to healing into wholeness.

I have no doubt that this is all happening for me, rather than to me. And unlike my grandmother, I will face my fears and take this trip and I will trust in the divine unfoldment of it all.

I am reminded that everything is always working out for me, even if it doesn’t seem that way and she is cheering me on all along the way.

These are the same phrases I spoke to the women when I was on stage just a few days ago and they echo loudly in my mind as the beautiful blessings of having the freedom to live my love story.

If you would like to experience the guided visualization for yourself listen to the audio recording so you too can be free from your fear story and claim your love story.

In my next blog I will share about my travel adventures so stay tuned, and if you would like to be notified when I share it you can join my email Love Letter list at the bottom of this page.

Until next time… thank you for being here.

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