How can Forgiveness be so Radical?

by Lorree | Aug 15, 2016 | 0 comments

I know a way to look at your otherwise crappy situation radically. I know how you can feel peace around it.

It’s a great feeling, and it’s easy and quick…. if you want to go there. Some people like staying in their situation. (aka their victim story) That’s where they feel comfortable. It’s what they know. But eventually it can get old. We know there’s more to life, and we want it, but how?

Radical Forgiveness was created by Colin Tipping over 20 years ago. It has evolved into Radical Living which entails other radical perceptions and tools to empower you and create your life. In all the areas the concept stays the same, and yes, it might be hard for your human mind to believe. But it works.

To understand Radical Forgiveness you first need to understand traditional forgiveness.

A simple example of traditional forgiveness is ‘someone did something wrong to me’. To forgive them I have to accept what they did and try my best to forget. But seriously do we every forget? No!

We may try to forgive and think it doesn’t bother us any longer but it’s off balance with our logic, and when it’s serious stuff to get over it’s almost impossible! They did something wrong! They are condemned in our logical mind.

We want to get past it, we try but our feelings were hurt, the trust was broken. Over time it fades but it’s still there, deep down, draining our energy.

We can lose faith in people, family, friends, and society. We can even become depressed, powerless or toxic. It eventually seeps into our physically body creating illness and disease.

Then comes Radical Forgiveness. We look at the situation as something our soul wanted to experience for some karmic reason we will probably never understand. And our soul may have even enlisted other souls to help out with the mission.

We take the logic out of it all together.

Yes, I said it, nothing was wrong! No forgiveness needed. I know, it sounds a bit crazy but I can tell you for certain you don’t have to believe it, you only need willingness to accept the concept as a possibility.

Even with non-believers, (like most of us), it works and there is usually instant peace and calm around the situation. By just being willing, your higher self connects to your Spiritual Intelligence and skips your subconscious mind before it has a chance to react. The blocked energy pattern is released. Hurt feelings dissipate, problems disappear, hearts heal.

Imagine… you can resolve major upsets and wrong doings, stop hanging on to resentment, rage and anger. All gone.

You may be thinking you are just trading one ‘story’ for another, and you would be right. But wouldn’t you rather live in the story which brings peace and happiness to your life?

Want to know more? Let’s talk to see if you’re ready to let go, surrender to peace and connect with who you truly are.

Besides impacting the lives of others to ‘be real and love life’ the most powerful thing about the work I get to do is the reflections of the teachings that come back to me. I always receive some type of wisdom, healing or blessing from the experience, whether it’s a private, group session or a speaking event.

Whatever the message is that I’ve conveyed I am somehow reminded of how it applies to me as well and it guides me towards the next stage of my growth.

Being aware of the subtle messages that are being sent to guide us forward is very empowering.

Last weekend at the Soul Full Day conference, I guided a group of 70 women through a visualization meditation to identify and let go of a fear story holding them back from what they truly wanted for their life, freedom to live their love story.

It was remarkable to witness them releasing the fear and claiming their love stories, seeing and feeling themselves living in the higher potential of their dreams.

This week I’ve been deeply reminded of the fear story that I’ve been carrying, ‘not being well enough to live a fulfilling life because my digestive health is failing’.

This is the same story my grandmother carried, and she died in fear with this story in her which was unconsciously passed on to me, and I accepted it.

For 8 years now I’ve been having various challenges with my digestive health. I’ve seen many different professionals and tried many different remedies and lifestyle changes. Some have worked and some haven’t. Over time things seemed to have mostly settled, then just a month ago the issues flared up again in a bigger way.

This brought up the old fear story for me as I prepare for a trip of a lifetime. I’m going to Egypt on a sacred pilgrimage to the visit the lands and ancient sites with 13 other women. This will be my first trip overseas and I’ve always been fascinated with Egyptian history, never thinking I would get the opportunity to visit until it showed up to me. I was very drawn to go, and decided I was going, even though it felt way outside my ability to be able to take such a trip.

Worries and a wide range of emotions have been coming up for me since these flare ups have been happening. My mind races and makes up stories based in old fears.

What if I am not well enough to fully experience this trip? What if I am stuck in my room and miss the tours, or what if I am not able to digest the food there? All that disappointment and money spent if I might not be able to full experience it.

These stories are very similar to what my grandmother used to tell herself. She was afraid to go far from home, let alone on a plane to another country. Everything centred around her digestive limitations and she was petrified of having an ‘accident’ while out in public. These fear stories debilitated her and she became a hermit and was very lonely in her later years.

I will never forget seeing her in the final days of her life living in fear. I visited her almost every day and seeing her like that was very sad because there wasn’t much I could do other than comfort and reassure her that she would be ok.

What it did do was motivate me to face my own fears and not go down the same path as she did. In this regard, she was a great teacher to me and not long after she transitioned I was divinely guided to take the Radical Forgiveness Master Coach 10 day training in Atlanta.

It was a huge step for me, and again way outside my comfort zone, but in the end it was one of the best things I could have done for myself because it set me on the trajectory of facing my fears, and the journey of living my love story.

I am eternally grateful to be on this path of self-forgiveness and self-acceptance just as I am, and in time I have learned to love myself. I’m still on this healing journey however this year I’ve had some major shifts in this area of my life and feel truly worthy and deserving of this love for myself because I have freedom from the fears.

This is where the synchronicity comes in again.

It just so happens that this Friday, the day I fly to Egypt, is the 9 year anniversary of my grandmother’s passing, and it’s a full moon! You just can’t make these things up. I didn’t realize the mysterious alignment of these dates until just a few weeks ago.

In numerology the number 9 represents endings and completions and I have a strong intuitive feeling that this trip is going to be transformational for me as a new beginning.

The other day when I was dancing my grandmother came to my mind, she was dancing with me, and I know she is leaving me these breadcrumb signs to follow to complete this stage of my journey. I made a promise to her that I was going to end the cycle of fear she carried and commit myself to healing into wholeness.

I have no doubt that this is all happening for me, rather than to me. And unlike my grandmother, I will face my fears and take this trip and I will trust in the divine unfoldment of it all.

I am reminded that everything is always working out for me, even if it doesn’t seem that way and she is cheering me on all along the way.

These are the same phrases I spoke to the women when I was on stage just a few days ago and they echo loudly in my mind as the beautiful blessings of having the freedom to live my love story.

If you would like to experience the guided visualization for yourself listen to the audio recording so you too can be free from your fear story and claim your love story.

In my next blog I will share about my travel adventures so stay tuned, and if you would like to be notified when I share it you can join my email Love Letter list at the bottom of this page.

Until next time… thank you for being here.

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