In light of the recent tragedy of the Orlando shootings I was feeling pretty sad and upset.
How about you? What is our world coming to?
I feel angry!
It’s 2016 and I would think by now this type of narrow minded thinking wouldn’t be so prevalent in our society but unfortunately there are still many people in the world who don’t accept what’s different than them….and feel they have to do something about it.
We see it in extremists’ viewpoints, political battle rings, and religious groups and in the actions of the cowards who believe it.
There are a lot of stirred up feelings around this….. and I think this will be the good part of it all.
Real change happens when big, scary, life altering events happen.
I am severely saddened that something this tragic has to occur to shine a light on the inequality that still exists in 2016 but I hope it will create the change that is needed for our years and generations to come.
I know my children’s’ generation (millennials) do not think in this way as a general rule.
It’s a ‘Live and let live’ type of world to them, and it makes sense to them; they don’t get the old way of feelings around sexuality. (It’s wrong to be different and a threat to me)
Thank God evolution is alive and well!
So it’s the clash of the old ways of being with a new way of being. Fear feelings to Love feelings.
It’s really hard to read the stories of how it all unfolded, the pain and suffering is immense for so many… and then there are some out there who are glad it happened and don’t mind saying so. There is hate being spread all over the world in various ways by acts of violence, abuse and oppression.
But I also see LOVE spreading. Love is the key.
What comes up for you when you are faced with all of these feelings? Of course we enjoy having the good feelings however there are the feelings of anger, grief and sadness we don’t like to deal with.
For the good of your well being and your relationships overall, find a healthy way to deal with all of your emotions.
To heal you must first feel.
We all have to feel it, as uncomfortable as it feels it’s necessary for things to start changing for the better.
Soo the big question….how do we feel in healthy ways when there are tough feelings to experience?
Here’s where you can get creative…
- Talk with a friend and each share your feelings about what happened
- Punch pillows or a punching bag
- Yell outside as loud as you can while running in circles (or yell in the shower if no one is around)
- Beat a cushion with a tennis racket (more about this next time)
- Write a letter saying everything you would say if you could confront the perpetrator. Read it out loud and add a proclamation at the end of how you will help change the situation
- Spread the word of how you feel about it and start making a difference
Just get them out of you! Yes you’re going to feel pretty crappy, these are crappy feelings, but in order for them to be released from your energy body you have to feel them and be ok with them, no judgments. We are humans who are suppose to feel. That’s our role down here.
It’s kinda weird to do this stuff at first but what have you got to lose?
An addiction you want to get back to or maybe complain and then do nothing about it? Will it do anyone any good? Nope.
Let’s create some change and take some action. We’ve been given a great opportunity to do that.
So first things first. How do you feel….really?
Give it a try and I’d love to hear what happens when you feel your feelings.
Besides impacting the lives of others to ‘be real and love life’ the most powerful thing about the work I get to do is the reflections of the teachings that come back to me. I always receive some type of wisdom, healing or blessing from the experience, whether it’s a private, group session or a speaking event.
Whatever the message is that I’ve conveyed I am somehow reminded of how it applies to me as well and it guides me towards the next stage of my growth.
Being aware of the subtle messages that are being sent to guide us forward is very empowering.
Last weekend at the Soul Full Day conference, I guided a group of 70 women through a visualization meditation to identify and let go of a fear story holding them back from what they truly wanted for their life, freedom to live their love story.
It was remarkable to witness them releasing the fear and claiming their love stories, seeing and feeling themselves living in the higher potential of their dreams.
This week I’ve been deeply reminded of the fear story that I’ve been carrying, ‘not being well enough to live a fulfilling life because my digestive health is failing’.
This is the same story my grandmother carried, and she died in fear with this story in her which was unconsciously passed on to me, and I accepted it.
For 8 years now I’ve been having various challenges with my digestive health. I’ve seen many different professionals and tried many different remedies and lifestyle changes. Some have worked and some haven’t. Over time things seemed to have mostly settled, then just a month ago the issues flared up again in a bigger way.
This brought up the old fear story for me as I prepare for a trip of a lifetime. I’m going to Egypt on a sacred pilgrimage to the visit the lands and ancient sites with 13 other women. This will be my first trip overseas and I’ve always been fascinated with Egyptian history, never thinking I would get the opportunity to visit until it showed up to me. I was very drawn to go, and decided I was going, even though it felt way outside my ability to be able to take such a trip.
Worries and a wide range of emotions have been coming up for me since these flare ups have been happening. My mind races and makes up stories based in old fears.
What if I am not well enough to fully experience this trip? What if I am stuck in my room and miss the tours, or what if I am not able to digest the food there? All that disappointment and money spent if I might not be able to full experience it.
These stories are very similar to what my grandmother used to tell herself. She was afraid to go far from home, let alone on a plane to another country. Everything centred around her digestive limitations and she was petrified of having an ‘accident’ while out in public. These fear stories debilitated her and she became a hermit and was very lonely in her later years.
I will never forget seeing her in the final days of her life living in fear. I visited her almost every day and seeing her like that was very sad because there wasn’t much I could do other than comfort and reassure her that she would be ok.
What it did do was motivate me to face my own fears and not go down the same path as she did. In this regard, she was a great teacher to me and not long after she transitioned I was divinely guided to take the Radical Forgiveness Master Coach 10 day training in Atlanta.
It was a huge step for me, and again way outside my comfort zone, but in the end it was one of the best things I could have done for myself because it set me on the trajectory of facing my fears, and the journey of living my love story.
I am eternally grateful to be on this path of self-forgiveness and self-acceptance just as I am, and in time I have learned to love myself. I’m still on this healing journey however this year I’ve had some major shifts in this area of my life and feel truly worthy and deserving of this love for myself because I have freedom from the fears.
This is where the synchronicity comes in again.
It just so happens that this Friday, the day I fly to Egypt, is the 9 year anniversary of my grandmother’s passing, and it’s a full moon! You just can’t make these things up. I didn’t realize the mysterious alignment of these dates until just a few weeks ago.
In numerology the number 9 represents endings and completions and I have a strong intuitive feeling that this trip is going to be transformational for me as a new beginning.
The other day when I was dancing my grandmother came to my mind, she was dancing with me, and I know she is leaving me these breadcrumb signs to follow to complete this stage of my journey. I made a promise to her that I was going to end the cycle of fear she carried and commit myself to healing into wholeness.
I have no doubt that this is all happening for me, rather than to me. And unlike my grandmother, I will face my fears and take this trip and I will trust in the divine unfoldment of it all.
I am reminded that everything is always working out for me, even if it doesn’t seem that way and she is cheering me on all along the way.
These are the same phrases I spoke to the women when I was on stage just a few days ago and they echo loudly in my mind as the beautiful blessings of having the freedom to live my love story.
If you would like to experience the guided visualization for yourself listen to the audio recording so you too can be free from your fear story and claim your love story.
In my next blog I will share about my travel adventures so stay tuned, and if you would like to be notified when I share it you can join my email Love Letter list at the bottom of this page.
Until next time… thank you for being here.
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